Blog Post Seven

“Healing Is Connecting with Yourself”

“The greatest healing of all is the healing of the soul, for it is the soul that carries the weight of our past, our wounds, our sorrows, and our joys. The mind may forget, but the soul remembers. And as we journey through life, we must be patient with ourselves. For true healing comes not when the scars disappear, but when we accept them as part of the beautiful, complex whole that is us.”
— Alice Walker

Healing. A word we hear everywhere now. A word that carries weight, yet somehow, in its overuse, has started to lose meaning. Everyone has their own definition of it, their own path toward it. And while it’s beautiful that conversations around mental health are expanding, I think we’ve started looking at healing the wrong way.

We see it as a task, a checklist, a lifelong project. We ask ourselves, What else do I need to work on? What more can I fix? But when we view ourselves this way, we unknowingly see ourselves as something broken. And you, my love, are not broken. You are simply becoming. You are growing, evolving, experiencing the rawness of being human.

If we look at healing through the lens of Hindu philosophy, it is not just about working through pain; it is a holistic connection of mind, body, and soul. It is balance. It is peace. It is a homecoming to yourself. Healing isn’t just about diving into your wounds, it’s about sitting with them, understanding them, feeling them without rushing to “fix” them.

And healing isn’t just deep reflection and inner work. It is also joy. It is laughter. It is the warmth of the sun on your face and the sound of music that makes your soul dance. We get so wrapped up in the heaviness of our pain that we forget to lighten. But we only heal in the vibration of love, softness, and self-compassion. Be kind to yourself. Be gentle with yourself. And, please, don’t forget to play.

For me, healing truly began when I was living abroad. I was alone, just me and my thoughts, and at first, that was terrifying. When you strip away the noise of the world, all you have left is you and your quirks, your fears, your dreams. But slowly, through that solitude, I met myself. I learned what I loved, not because someone told me to love it, but because I truly did.

You don’t have to move across the world to begin. You just have to create space for yourself. Take yourself out, go to a coffee shop, a park, a museum. Bring a journal. Let yourself be in solitude. Learn about yourself the way you’d learn about someone you love.

A lot of people think healing is just therapy. And if you have access to it, that’s beautiful. But if you don’t, know this: you are still capable of healing. I couldn’t afford therapy, so I found other ways. I filled my mind with self-help books, podcasts, words that lifted me. I started each morning with soft music, something that set the tone for my day. Little shifts like these made all the difference.

And so, if you take anything from this, let it be this: you do not need fixing. You were never broken. You do not need to rush, to force, to chase healing like it’s a destination. It is already unfolding within you.

Wherever you are on your journey, I hope you remember to be soft with yourself. To hold yourself like you would a dear friend. To breathe. To rest. To laugh so hard your stomach aches. Healing is not just in the heavy work it is in the lightness, too. It is in love. And above all, it is in you.

With love, always,

Karina Jade xx